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Hi mama!

I’m directionally challenged.  Six months pregnant with my third child, I once found myself hitchhiking I-81 –  semis speeding by at 75 mp. I ran out of gas on the way to my obgyn appointment because I crossed the Mason Dixon line instead of heading towards the state of Maryland and my doctor’s office.

Instead of launching into the gory details of why I could never find my way around the tri-state area, I’d like to help you find your way around motherhood with more confidence than I navigated.

You see, motherhood is my mission.

I set out to grow my kids to become independent, responsible, God and parenting-loving adults.

And in spite of my lack of physical direction, I’m happy to tell you that, with God’s help, I accomplished my goal.

Join for support, encouragement, and time-tested advice

If you’re seeking direction in parenting, I’m here to equip you to be the best parent you can be for your personality and set of directional circumstances.

Here at Ruthie Gray.Mom (formerly Rear Release Regroup), you will find humor, parenting advice, and wisdom for how to practically apply Scripture to everyday motherhood.

You should totally check out my mommy anger ebook called, Count to Nine; 9 Liberating Steps for Mom Anger and Frustration.  Moms are gaining tremendous wins through implementing the Biblical tactics in this book!  You can read about it here.

count to nine; 9 liberating steps for mom frustration and anger

Are you ready to find out how to raise your kids well?  Sign up here for answers.  For starters, you will receive my:

  • Top Ten Tips to Rearing a Confident Young Man,
  • 6 Powerful Scripture Prayers for the Overwhelmed Mom,
  • 5 Secret Strategies for a Thriving Marriage,
  • The Marriage and Boundaries Pack  
  • Our Mom Time Out Facebook group for support, encouragement, and community!

As always, feel free to message me here with any questions about parenting or my blog.  I’m a mom of four and Gigi to two, so chances are, I’ve got your answer – even if I can’t tell you how to get to the next town over without calling roadside assistance.

Let’s get started helping you parent, mama.  And, as you’ll hear me say a lot ’round these parts, get ready to capture the joy in your season!


7 Ways Bible study calms an overwhelmed mom; Learn to study and interpret Scripture on your own and grow your faith with short bursts of time in the Word.






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Can’t control your temper?

From the book, "Count to Nine; 9 Liberating Steps for Mom Frustration and Anger". Tips for applying Scriptural methods to curb anger. Dear mom, you have the tools to overcome anger and frustration!
In Count to Nine, moms discover a Scripturally sound, methodical approach for taming the temper. Ruthie Gray, mother of four and grandparent of two, gently guides frazzled mothers of all ages toward God’s Word, His view on anger, and the nine steps to overcoming wrath.

In this ebook, you will learn

*The surprising reasons behind your anger

*The mind-blowing truth of God’s view on anger

*One eye-opening tactic for changing your reactions

*How the staggering power of unbelief can keep you from change

*How to triumph through one key attitude adjustment

*How to gain victory over a life-long stronghold

*And much, much more!

The author, Ruthie Gray, transparently shares her own motherhood struggles, instantly connecting with moms through her “been there” approach. Moms will find victory, new hope, and support through this encouraging method of actionable Scripture verses and Scripture prayers.


Dear mom, isn’t it time for you to Count to Nine?


From the book, "Count to Nine; 9 Liberating Steps for Mom Frustration and Anger". Tips for applying Scriptural methods to curb anger. Dear mom, you have the tools to overcome anger and frustration!




Come join us at MTO (Mom Time Out)

MTO is a closed Facebook group support group for moms in the trenches, tired of reacting to daily conflicts or annoyances in family dynamics with anger or frustration.

At MTO you will find a place to share your story and interact with others who have been there too.

You will find support, encouragement, Scripture Pillars, Goals, and a plan of action for attacking those feelings of overwhelm and frustration.

Click the picture below to fill out the information and join MTO today.  The directions will walk you through!


Join the MTO challenge and boost your calm in 2016! A special Facebook group for moms to interact and share encouragement for those "real" moments



What this blog is about:

Encouragement and advice for moms of littles, middles, teens, and young adults (empty-nesters).

I’m not saying I have it all together.  Mostly, I don’t have anything together.


I’ve been married 29 long years

I have four grown children 

I’ve been crying for two years with empty nest syndrome (the last kid is perched on the edge)

I’ve struggled with my faith and come out on top (with God’s help)


It all began when…

During my college years, I met my soul mate, Jim, who is the funniest, most dynamic, driven person I’ve ever met.

We are polar opposites.  You can get some good insight into our life together here.

I grew up a pastor’s daughter, come to know the Lord at a very young age, and grew up with many godly influences in my life.  I love the Lord and desire to glorify Him with my life and see others come to know Him and grow in their faith.

I was an only child with three passions:

1.  Learning how to play the piano

2.  Graduating college with a music degree

3.  Cultivating a large family

And so I did.  Except if you’re reading this and you have ten kids.  Then you win.

I LOVED being a mom.  I mean I lived for it.  It is what I was born to do.  Would you look at that? I’m talking like I’m no longer a mom.

It’s just different now, but I’m still very much needed, I’m finding!  Which is encouraging because I kinda like the title.


My kids are ages 27 (girl), 25 (boy), 22 (girl), and 20 (girl).

Sawyer is my 3-year-old grandson (the Tiny Tornado), and his baby sister, Baby Cakes!

I’m also the main caregiver for my parents, who have health issues, and live in an apartment adjoining my home. We love having them close so we can keep an eye on them (make sure they’re behavin’).


How often do I post on my blog?

Top 10 tips to rearing a confident young man1-2 times per week.  You will usually only receive one email from me, containing the posts of the week.  Sometimes two, and mayyyyybe three if I’ve got a little something up my sleeve I’m just dying to share with another mother!

Subscribe here in order to get the inside scoop!  With subscription, you will receive my Top Ten Tips to rearing a confident young man, 5 Key Strategies to keep your marriage thriving, 6 Scripture Prayers for the Overwhelmed Mom, and What Scripture says about boundaries and divorce in an unhealthy marriage.



And if you’d like a peek into my life, you can follow along on social media by clicking on the links below:



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Anchor verse for this blog

Before you go, let me share with you my verse for the year, Proverbs 31:25:

Strength and dignity are her clothing, and she laughs at the time to come. (Italics mine).

This verse means a whole lot to me right now at this time in my life.  I’m learning to let go my children and entrust them to God, now that they are out from under my care.  I don’t want to worry my life away, concerned with potential scenarios.

I want to laugh at the time to come.

What about you?  Are you enjoying life as it comes, or are you worried about the next thing around the bend?

Let’s learn together to live in the present, and savor the moments.  Because parenting is hard, but so rewarding.

We don’t want to look back someday and realize we wasted our time with our kids worrying or fretting when we could have been capturing the joy.

So c’mon, girlfriend!  We’re in this together.  Let’s Rear, Release, and Regroup!



Comments 4

  1. Hello!

    I recently discovered you on Pinterest and started following you!

    I blog about time saving tips for Busy Moms. I share recipes, home organization tips, entertaining ideas, and parenting tips.

    Would you consider adding me to your Pinterest group board Christian growth (https://www.pinterest.com/shortmrsgray/christian-growth/)? I would love to help contribute printable Bible verses to the board content. My Pinterest username is mkreppein and my Pinterest email address is the same I registered for this comment. I would also be interested in collaborating on other group boards you might have.

    Thank you,

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      Sure! I looked over your Pinterest boards and your “Best of” and it looks like you align well with what we’re about in Christian growth! Thanks for asking to be a part of our team. Happy to have you!

  2. I have loved getting to know you. Parenting is hard, but it need not always be somber. I appreciate your humor cause I think it’s important to laugh a lot. Love that picture of you and the hubby at the bottom of the page!

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      I’ve loved getting to know you too, friend! We communicate most every day and it’s something I look forward to! I do think we have the same kind of humor because you get a lot of things I post that sometimes others don’t. LOL. 😉 And thanks – that was in the beginnings of our Florida escapades!

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