Are you quick to anger? Trust God more. Do your passions lead to outbursts of anger that you wish you could take back? These powerful truths give support!

Are you quick to anger? Trust God more

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Are your passions at war within you?  Do those passions sometimes lead to outbursts of anger that you wish you could take back?  In the Bible, James writes about this problem…


“What causes quarrels and what causes fights among you? Is it not this, that your passions are at war within you? You desire and do not have, so you murder. You covet and cannot obtain, so you fight and quarrel. You do not have, because you do not ask. “ -James 4:1-2 (ESV)


Are you quick to anger? Trust God more. Do your passions lead to outbursts of anger that you wish you could take back? These powerful truths give support!


James uses the terminology of your passions being at war.  Those of us who’ve experienced the grace of forgiveness and salvation through Christ still face a battle between our spirit (with it’s Godly desires) and our flesh (our worldly desires)- and we will continue to throughout this life.


We are not left on our own to fight this battle.  We can trust God to continue the good work that he started in us when we accepted Christ as our Lord and Savior.


You do not have, because you do not ask. Have we asked God if what we want is the same as what he wants?  And if we think that, yes, our desire is a godly one, with right motives, have we placed our own expectations around the plan to obtain what we want?


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How many times do unmet expectations lead to anger?  I know that the answer, for me, is too many times.  If I want something, and I’ve already asked God about it, then I need to trust him with the rest.


We don’t need to jump off the handle when things don’t go according to our plans.  It’s easier to be calm amidst the frustration of unmet expectations when we’re resting in the knowledge of who God is.


Here are 3 truths about who God is and why we can trust him:


  1. God is infinite in wisdomhe knows what he’s doing


“Wisdom is the power to see, and the inclination to choose, the best and highest goal, together with the surest means of attaining it.  Wisdom is, in fact the practical side of moral goodness.  As such, it is found in its fullness only in God.  He alone is naturally and entirely and invariable wise.” –J.I. Packer, Knowing God


  1. God is perfect in lovehe is the very definition of love


“Calvary is the one, objective, absolute, irrefutable proof of God’s love for us.” –J.I. Packer, Trusting God


  1. God is completely sovereignhe is in control


“God sat over the dark nothing and wrote you and me specifically in the story, and He put us in specifically with the sunsets and the rainstorms as though to say, ‘Enjoy your place in My story, the very beauty of it means it’s not about you, and in time that will give you comfort.”  -Donald Miller, A Million Miles in a Thousand Years


When we change our expectations and we realize that the Christian life is not about us, but about God glorified in us, sinful anger has a way of taking care of itself.  It just isn’t as much of a problem.


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Are you quick to anger? Trust God more. Do your passions lead to outbursts of anger that you wish you could take back? These powerful truths give support!



What I’m NOT saying is that we should be passive.  Make a plan and work to carry it out.  But hold that plan loosely, knowing that God is in control and can be trusted to carry it out to completion the way he sees fit.


Passion, rightly directed, is a good thing.  And anger is sometimes justified.  But as Christians who want to bring honor to God, we will do best to heed the wisdom found in God’s Word where it says,


“Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger; for the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God.” -James 1:19-20 (ESV)


I don’t want to be quick to anger.  I want to honor God with the way I live.  Trusting God is the way to do this.


Trust God with your desires and passions.  Ask him to guide your heart in a way that is pleasing to him.


Trust God with your plans.  Ask him direct you as you pursue those passions.


Trust God when your expectations aren’t met.  We might think we know how God will carry out his plans through us, but only God sees the entire picture.


The passions that are at war within you need not cause you to sin in anger.   When it feels like anger is getting the best of you, remember that you don’t have to fight this battle alone.  You can trust God and his great plan for your life.



Dawn Klinge

Dawn Klinge is the author of Look To Jesus:  How to Let Go of Worry and Trust God (January, 2016).  She writes about Christian faith regularly at Above the Waves, drawing on her experience as wife and mom to two.  She holds a degree in education from University of Idaho.  A pastor’s kid and a church girl her entire life, she’s still trying to figure out what it looks like to put her trust in Jesus.  Dawn and her husband, Derek, live near Seattle, Washington.  You can also find her on Twitter, Facebook and Instagram




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Comments 6

  1. This is so good Dawn! Quick to hear, slow to speak and slow to anger! These things are hard to do when we forget we are to be living a life where Christ is glorified in us. But like you said, when we trust in God and His love and plan for us, I think it gives us peace inside which makes us slow to anger. Thank you for this truth-filled post!

  2. Thank you, Valerie. Yes, there is a peace inside, that is supernatural, when we trust in God and his plan for us!

  3. Truth be told, I use to be more quick to anger in my younger years. Now as I get older, I’m chilling a bit more. Thinking before the pot boils over so we say! Great post.

    1. Michelle, that’s a blessing of getting older! I’ve seen the same thing in my life. I think our perspective changes.

  4. Outbursts of temper are so closely tied to our expectations. I expect my children to obey and other’s to keep their word. These have been two areas that can spark anger and frustration. Thanks for these words today, Dawn.

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