To the lonely mom in her zombie state of mind

Ruthie Rearing 10 Comments

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Are you a lonely mom?  I feel ya, sis.

To the lonely mom in her zombie state of mind; you are not alone. Hope for the weary, angry, or depressed mom in any season of life.

Attack of the Zombie-MOM-bies

Dear mom, I know you think you’re all alone, bogged down with snot wiping, Lego-dodging, and sticky floor cleaning (to name a few mundane tasks).

I see you there in your lonely, zombie-like state of mind, getting up all hours of the night to locate lost pacifiers and change freshly vomited bed sheets.

And you in the teenage years?  That mostly fun, but emotionally exhausting season as you seek to keep one step ahead of them (or keep your eyes propped open until they get home)?  Honey, I got the T-shirt.

It’s battle-stained, but I EARNED THAT SUCKER.  And guess what–God was there the entire time, through every ragged SOS prayer.

But there’s another zombie state of mind hitting closer to home these days.  It’s the empty nest, “How did all my kids grow up without me realizing it” stage.  Talk about regrouping.  Even if you’ve looked forward to having a little independence, fresh waves of grief hit when you least expect them.

Lest you’ve heard differently, be assured (and beware):  lonely, zombie moms pervade the earth.

{Cue creepy music.}

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Re-awakening the dazed soul

For all you zombie-mombies out there (including myself), I want to share with you a most lovely passage of Scripture that will brighten your glazed eyeballs and straighten your hunched gait!

And how blessed all those in whom you live, whose lives become roads you travel;

They wind through lonesome valleys, come upon brooks, discover cool springs and pools brimming with rain!

God-traveled, these roads curve up the mountain, and at the last turn–Zion!

God in full view!  ~Psalm 84:5-7, The Message

To the lonely mom in her zombie state of mind; you are not alone. Hope for the weary, angry, or depressed mom in any season of life.

Mom, are you a believer in Jesus Christ, the Son of God, and have you acknowledged that you are indeed a sin-sick soul?  Have you asked God for forgiveness, and do you believe that Christ died on the cross for your sins, according to the Scriptures?  Then, my friend, the Bible states that you have God living in you in the form of the Holy Spirit.

Do you ever think about that?

God in you.

When you bend to wipe a five-year-old’s tear, God is in you.  (Your life is a road He travels.)

When you sit to nurse your five-month-old at 2:00 AM, He is in you.  (Could this be that lonesome valley?)

As you attend ballgames and ballet class, taxiing kids all over the ends of the earth, God travels along–on your literal route as well as your life road.

When some kind soul takes pity on you, watches your kids, and you get a chance to catch your breath (coming upon a refreshing brook), your life is a road He travels.

Even better–when your sister-in-law offers to keep all four kids for one whole, glorious week while you escape to Florida with your hubby (discovering cool springs and pools brimming with rain), your life is a road He travels.

And when you lose your cool, He is still inside you, going with you on that rocky, emotional, rage-filled, or depressed road.

Does He leave when you blow it?


Do you know why?

Because He doesn’t give up on you.  He knows He can change you.  He desires to change you to be more like Jesus.

But you have to desire that too–and not only desire it, but believe that He can and will change you!


Jesus looked at them and said, “With man, this is impossible, but with God, ALL things are possible.  ~Matthew 19:26, NIV


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As you move throughout your day today, remember, God is traveling your road.  Claim His promise that He can make it possible to keep your mouth shut, refrain from screaming, or worse.

God can do this.  Seek Him today, claim His power through this Scripture, and get back on your road.

After all, God’s already there!

Have you felt lonely or zombie-like of late?  What Scripture passages are getting you through this stage of life?


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Comments 10

  1. Ruthie, what a wonderful word of encouragement. I can’t imagine any mom who wouldn’t be blessed by this. He is with me! Yes, I need it too! Thanks for this blessing! Hugs to you!

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      Thanks so much Deb – YOU just encouraged ME! I ran across this passage last year and it has stuck with me ever since. So refreshing! God’s Word hits the spot, doesn’t it? Can’t wait to read YOUR post today! ❤️

  2. Thank you so much for featuring my post, Ruthie. Your words are a great encouragement. I’m so thankful God doesn’t give up on me even when I mess up as a mom!

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      You’re very welcome – it was a lovely article! And no, He sure doesn’t give up on us. In fact, He’s got us for life! We just need to make sure we stick with Him. Thanks for popping over and for your lovely comment! See you next week!

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  3. This is encouraging, Ruthie! I’m literally sitting here nursing my newborn as I read it. Thanks for the reminder that God is with us and empowers us.

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      Aw Shannon. I do hope your heart is encouraged. You will make it through this haze, I promise! It’ll just take a little longer than you want, but it’ll go a lot faster than you realize. Hang in there! 🙂

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      Sarah, I’ve certainly been there! And my daughter is there now, so it’s all fresh in my mind again, this rough, weary road called motherhood. thank you for stopping by, I pray you will remember this encouragement throughout your week!

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