Dear parents of college students, you’re getting schooled

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Dear parents of college students, you're getting schooled; 16 choices college students make that blindside the bewildered parent and what you can do about it.



Did you just drop your college student off at school?  Are you bawling your eyes out, wondering if life will ever be the same again?

I feel you, mamma.

What’s more-your kid is not the one getting schooled-you are.


My vicarious college tenure

My baby entered her junior year of college last week. My fourth-born. My accidental child (because the minute I decided three kids were enough, she showed up in the form of a pink plus sign).

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Last year, I had three in college.

This year, she’s the only one (praise Jesus).


Four kids. NINE years. Thirty-three semesters. Five college campuses. Four states.


Two years to go.  (Picture mental sweat drops splashing to the floor.)

I remember dropping my first child off at college nearly ten years ago.  It’s a big step for moms; the first one out the door, signaling the beginning of new era.

Retaining children still tucked in the nest softens the blow somewhat, yet one gets the feeling life as you know it will never be the same again.

(One would be correct in that assumption.)

You may have seen the video of a mom hanging off the back of a car as her daughter and peers ride joyfully off to college.  If you feel like that right now, I’ve got news for you.

It gets worse.

Today, I’m sharing sixteen choices your child may likely produce in college.  The following events may or may not have happened throughout the span of our children’s college tenure.

Who am I kidding-they all happened.  I can’t make this stuff up.

Without further ado, I give you The Surprising Sixteen.  You can thank me later.


Sixteen choices college students make (or at least that’s what happened to me)


While attending college, your child may:
1.)  Change majors 6-10 times
2.)  Exhaust meal tickets while running up your credit card on “groceries”
3.)  Spend the day shopping instead of attending class (again-your credit card)
4.)  Opt not to text or call for weeks (“Mom, I’m sooooo busy!”  Read:  “I can’t talk right now, there’s a party in my dorm.  Actually, it’s in my room.  Brb.  Jk.”)
5.)  Participate in a “compost pile” by tossing cafeteria fruit out dorm windows onto front lawn,  possibly (accidentally) hitting parked cars in adjacent lot.  Also possibly shattering a windshield with a melon.
6.)  Change college institutions 3+ times
7.)  Treat friends, Romans, and acquaintances to dinner at Olive Garden not once, but multiple times (again, courtesy of your credit card)
8.)  Accidentally graduate from a college not currently attending (professional student, anyone?)
9.)  Drop out of college after one semester on the guise of attending beauty school, (yet never actually attending beauty school) producing a bachelor of arts two colleges later (“I never really liked that first school, mom.”)
10.) Make a surprise visit home, complete with refrigerater raiders school pals and speeding ticket(s)
11.) Call to announce a just-witnessed a crime scene-of which they were an accidental victim,  bullet hole in apartment window notwithstanding. (“Hey mom, I just got interviewed by the police!”)
12.) Ask you if quitting college is an option (“just checking, dad”)
13.) Take on a “summer job” lasting fourteen months, enjoying an unexpected hiatus from college (“the job lasted longer than I thought it would”)
14.) Switch colleges to major in the choice YOU suggested in the first place because “my boss said I’d be good at it”
15.) Move back home after graduating college
16.) Graduate college and land job having nothing to do with college degree


Dear mom, here’s the rule of life:  nothing will happen the way you think it will.

Just stop right now with the stressing.  Help them make decisions as best you can (when they allow), fill out the FAFSA, pay the college bill, send the rest to Sallie Mae, and sit back and wait for surprise number 17.  It’ll happen.  I guarantee it.

After all, your parents survived, didn’t they?

What golden nuggets have you gleaned from your college student?  I’d love to hear!


*Next week:  Why 21st-century college is a racket; aka throw your ’80’s philosophy out the window.



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Writing has always felt like a second language to me. I feel like I speak two languages and am only fluent in one.  I can’t seem to speak the thoughts I’m able to write down. They are only expressed when they flow from my mind to my fingers.

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“If God is setting your boat on the ocean, then all you have to do is let him lead the direction of the boat. You just have to take the risk and take your boat off of the dock and put it in the water. Then trust God to lead you where he wants you to go.”

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